Chastity Contract

Chastity Contract

There are many FLR stories and contracts floating around on the Internet. Many long term chastity tales too. Her Subject often fantasized about them. Many of them so unpractical or extreme that Her Subject thought best to keep them as fantasies. Her Subject didn’t see any harm jotting down some of the ideas. If fact, he had fun doing it. He drafted a chastity contract. It was simple, really. Only consisted of one line of stating one year of chastity to be enforced by Athena. Nothing more. No game to be played. No chores, tasks, or goals attached to it. No obvious benefits to Athena in itself. Her Subject thought one year of chastity was too excessive to be considered seriously. Simply writing it down and imagining the scenarios was enough excitement for...

Covert Hypnosis

Covert Hypnosis

Appliance Repair Project “The ice dispenser is broken,” Athena informed Her Subject. Her Subject was annoyed. He didn’t like anything that causes Athena inconveniences. Additionally, repairing it will seriously cut into their private time for sex. “The broken part is in the front panel,” Athena said. How would she know? Did she have X-ray vision? Her Subject wondered. Searching on the Internet, Her Subject found the most likely culprit and ordered the part. “I did my research, the broken part is most likely in the back panel,” he said confidently. After the part arrived and replaced, it was still not working. Reluctantly, Her Subject opened up the front panel. The broken piece fell out right away. Her Subject studied it for a while. It was going to a major...

Dominatrix Holding a Scalpel

Dominatrix Holding a Scalpel

Today we take a scalpel to the formula:   Dominatrix = Athena(i) and Her Subject(i)   We are going to carve out a piece from the formula and examine it closely. With the right tool in hand, we can cook up wild conjectures. In this case, we are not even sure if a scalpel is the right tool. But we had fun taking the picture. Isn’t it the whole purpose? To bring joy to life? First we take a look of the variable: i. It’s simple enough. It represents how interested we are in something. We should instinctively know it ourselves, right? After all, introspection is available to everybody. Listen to ourselves. Are we interested? Is it really something we want to do? Do we have the urge to do it? Does it bring us satisfaction? Yet it is elusive to us, for it is ever...

Simple Formula

Simple Formula

Here is a simple formula. D/s = Athena(i) and Her Subject(i)   That is, the dominant / submissive dynamic is the result of Athena’s and Her Subject’s interest levels. When both interest levels are high, of chance of it happening is good. The formula can apply to any particular kink/fetish. Kink = Athena(i) and Her Subject(i)   We can also rewrite it as: Dominatrix = Athena(i) and Her Subject(i)   That’s it. Simple, right? But life has a way of complicating things. Does the formula work? Maybe. But we know for sure that it can foretell failure. In other words, if we are both interested, there is no guarantee that any particular kink will happen. But we know for sure it will fade away if one of us loses interest. Interest level cannot be quantified. We cannot...

How to Turn Her Into a Dominatrix

How to Turn Her Into a Dominatrix

Many men wondered if there are levers to pull to turn her into a dominatrix. A simple flip of a switch and voila, the dominatrix of your dream. Chances are, there are switches and levers. But they are not obvious, visible, or intuitive. Don’t bet on them to be simple either. And that’s the rub, isn’t it? For a naturally dominant woman, it won’t work that way. She doesn’t like her lever pulled or her switch flipped at the whim of another person. If anything, she wants to be the one pulling the levers. That’s what makes her dominant. For a naturally submissive woman, the lever may be missing. There is no amount of effort can get her into any resemblance of a dominatrix. Forcing her out of her natural self may only drive her mad, if not away. Nevertheless, there is...

Wife Whipping Husband

Wife Whipping Husband

We felt perhaps it was time to try the single tail in the bedroom. The shape of the whip is tapered. The diameter decreases smoothly from the handle to just a few sawing threads at the cracker end. As the diameter decreases the energy travels down the whip gets more and more concentrated. The whip moving speed accelerates as well. When the whip cracks, the cracker can travel exceeding the speed of a bullet. The loud pop is the sonic boom when the cracker breaks the sound barrier. The power and the danger thrilled Her Subject. To start, Athena tried to make a few loud cracks without hitting anything. Only a few successes. As short as the 4-foot whip was, it was hitting the wall, the ceiling, the ceiling fan, or other pieces of furniture in the room. A few time she...

Bullwhips

Bullwhips

The bullwhips Her Subject ordered had arrived. Genuine Australian kangaroo hide and shot-loaded. Her Subject had to look up what that meant: actual lead pallets were stuffed in the whip. Two different lengths of whips were ordered. A short 4-foot one for bedroom play, and an 8-foot one for Athena’s Halloween custom. “Now I need the rest of the outfit to go with it,” Athena said giggly. “They are beautiful. Just the right shade of red I like. Scarlet color,” Athena said while examining her new toys. Then she gave them a couple loud cracks. They were deafening. “Awesome. The weight feels just right. The nylon ones were just too light. I really like the weight feels in these new whips. So easy to throw and crack. You said they are stuffed with lead?” “Yes My...

Cracking Whips

Cracking Whips

It had been a long day at work. Her Subject fought the traffic and finally made it home tired and sleepy. Athena was busy cooking dinner and managing the children. When Athena saw Her Subject, her eyes sparkled. With the spatula still in her hand, she passionately put her arms around Her Subject hugging him and gave him a big kiss. “Oh, thank you, I had so much fun today. They were so cool.” Her Subject had no idea what this was about. He blankly stared at Athena, “Huh?” “The whips. The whips you bought me. I watched some YouTube tutorials, then practiced in the backyard. I have already learned how to crack them. I can do several different cracks already using either hand. I loved it. It was so cool. I can’t wait to tell everybody. Can we do a video and put on...

Tickling Whip

Tickling Whip

The whip arrived. Her Subject was eager to have Athena to use it. Neither of us knew if we’d like it. But we had to wait. Dinner, bathing the children, music lessons, spelling, and readings needed to be done first. After the children were in bed, then laundry, dishes, and picking up children’s toys all around the house. We were lucky to have energy left by the end of the night. Her Subject asked Athena for pictures for the blog, and she was happy to do it. She never read this blog, though both of us liked to review and critique the pictures. Athena will be forty soon. She giggled when she saw the pictures. Her Subject generally arranged background to be uncluttered, but he was too tired to rearrange furniture. On the right side of the picture was an indigo...

Vanilla Dominatrix Book Review

Vanilla Dominatrix Book Review

Most of the Femdom, bottoming, or FLR books, I had a hard time applying to our own relationship. One common theme among these books is that the wife has to do a lot of work. For example, take the time to read these books. What if she doesn’t want read these books? That was the case for Athena. She said, “B, you read these books. Then teach me how to dominate you.” Then she refused to do the things described in these books. Too taxing for her. Vanilla Dominatrix by Giles English was different. It was the only book I found emphasizing on minimizing the overhead for the female partner. It was a short read. I was able to finish it in just a few hours. Then I had hope. I could successfully coach Athena Femdom in the least taxing way for her. Actually I had...

Subconscious in Action

Subconscious in Action

Our two year old son, Eric, was sick in the middle of the night. He started crying and throwing up. A light fever too. Athena was woken up from the crying, took Eric to our room to comfort him. He was still throwing up, so Athena took him to the bathroom. I was a heavy sleeper. I slept through all that. Then I heard my instant trance trigger and it transformed me into a trance state from sleeping. “Please help me,” I heard Athena crying. Her hair was a mess with vomit in it. Her robe was dripping vomit too. There was a trail of vomit leading to where Athena was. Clenching Eric close to her, soothing Eric, Athena was not capable of doing anything else. “Clean Eric,” Athena directed me softly. I cleaned up both of them with a warm towel. Then I got them changes of...

Random Things to Do Toward FLR

Random Things to Do Toward FLR

I didn’t really know what I was doing. I thought perhaps the first thing we’d try was to establish Athena’s psychological dominance. Whatever we did, it had to be with minimal effort on Athena’s part. Many of FLR books recommended starting out small. So I came up these things: I would get on my knee and kiss Athena’s feet every night. It took only a few seconds. We would give each other names to signify our relationship. After some discussion, I would call Athena Queen, and she would call me B. We would use them only when we were private and alone. The names were chosen so if we accidentally used them in front of the children it would not cause alarm. Athena had already referred herself as the Queen of the house in front of the children, so this was an easy...

No Help

No Help

I bought a bunch e-books on Femdom and FLR. I had great difficulty applying what I’ve read. Almost all of them asked quite a bit of work from the females. They had to practice, change some habits, mindset, be creative and come up with ideas. Athena would not go for any that. Too much work for her. Too much overhead. She just did not have the energy nor the time. There were more important things to do. “How about a simple wish list?” I asked. “No, no wish list.” was Athena’s reply. “But I still think I’ll enjoy this Femdom thing. You keep working on it and run new ideas by me.” Athena rejected the ideas of doing research on her own on the Internet, joining a discussion group, an FLR contract, and all protocols I proposed. She didn’t like the idea of me doing more...

Conspiracy of Myself Against Myself

Conspiracy of Myself Against Myself

Eager to get more hypnotic phenomena to work, I bought several files of different things from LeeAllure to try. One of the techniques Lee used was addressing directly to my unconscious by name explicitly. Such as “I’m talking directly to the unconscious” in the script itself. I enjoyed this technique and wanted to experiment more with it. After all, it worked great in the Pop Quiz game: my unconscious successfully hid knowledges from my conscious self beyond reach. I think Lee prefers the term unconscious, but I prefer subconscious myself. Unconscious sounded too much like in a coma or dreamless sleep that there would be no brain activities at all. That’s not the case for hypnosis in which there can be lots of brain activities. I don’t know the formal definition...

Vanilla Female Led Relationship and Femdom

Vanilla Female Led Relationship and Femdom

I was interested in a D/s relationship, me being the dominant, more so than hypnosis. The whole idea of hypnosis was to hypnotize Athena into a kinky sex bot. But that was not how it turned out. First, I couldn’t hypnotize Athena. She hypnotized me. Second, I found it difficult to manage dominance while being hypnotized. I thought me being the bottom would also be fun, so I started my research. I didn’t find books or Internet to be very helpful. Whatever I wanted to do, it had to take up almost no time. In the BDSM culture, the scenes looked very time consuming. However, FLR, or Female Led Relationship, looked promising. I thought there were a lot of little things that could take up almost no time but kinky in nature. By this time, I knew Athena was very open to...

Her Voice

Her Voice

Athena never read anything on hypnosis, watched YouTube videos, or any other educational material on hypnosis. I had been the one doing all that, and I never really taught Athena anything in depth. There never seemed to be enough time. I was always eager to do things. So I told her what to do with minimal explanation to save time. For recreational purpose, I think this suits both of us fine. When I asked Athena to hypnotize me the first time, I briefly mentioned to her to develop a hypnotic voice. “Just so I can differentiate from normal talking voice. Probably will make suggestions more effective, and probably safer in keeping you from accidentally trancing me.” That’s all I said to her. Took only a few seconds. She naturally started with a voice that was firm...

My Wife the Hypnotist

My Wife the Hypnotist

For the next several weeks, I did whatever I could to free up some time to practice hypnosis on Athena. Thinking all the blow jobs I’d be getting, I was highly motivated. I tried and tried, I could not get Athena into the state of hypnosis. The most defeating comment was when she told me my garlic breath from dinner was very distracting. Not only I’m incapable at doing hypnosis, but I also have bad breath. Very discouraging. We never had much of our own private time. I felt the time was wasted in chanting hypnotic inductions to no avail. We really could have great sex instead. I didn’t think it’s the best use of time. I felt defeated. I needed a different approach. Maybe if Athena learns how to hypnotize me, she can learn to be hypnotized. So I asked her to try...

Giles English

Giles English

Looking back, I was onto something that Giles English had already published, but I didn’t know it back then. My idea was just forming, while Giles English already had it systematically worked out. The idea is that you can make femdom work when she is vanilla. You can read more about it by clicking here. I had already got up the courage to ask Athena to try something different. In this case, hypnosis. It was time to put it into action. I needed a plan to make it happen. Athena is always sleep-deprived and exhausted from working and taking care of the kids. I needed a time slot when Athena was at a good energy level and free from chores and kids. I took the kids out to the park as time permitted to tire them out, so they’d go to bed early. I encouraged Athena to...